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太年輕,太老

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5個月後,我就36歲了。

 

曾經有人對我說,我沒資格上某個學術課程,因為我年齡太大。

也有人說,我看上去不像個顧問,因為我年紀太輕。

有人說我不能在水坑裡跑來跑去,因為我歲數大了。

有人說我缺乏經驗,因為我年紀太小。

有人說我不應該提着熊貓手袋或戴熊貓耳罩,因為我年紀一大把。

有人說我不能收那麼高的報酬或給高層領導開工作坊,因為我太年輕。

 

那麼,我到底處在什麼位置?

 

這不光是我將在2017年4月年滿36歲這麼簡單。這個數字真的重要嗎?為什麼重要?我一直困惑為什麼長輩總是說,我一個女孩不該和別人說我的年齡,也一直不解為什麼那些年長者會為年齡而羞愧或者拒絕公開年齡。是出於什麼理由呢?這個小小的數字象徵著什麼?

 

我們限制自己只做「和年紀相匹配」的事——我同意有些活動確實更適合大人—— 但說到玩耍、放飛想像、勇敢做自己,這些都是沒有任何限制的。同樣,即使一個2歲孩子說棋子可以是玩偶兔的食物,我也不會駁斥他。為什麼不可以是呢?

 

要是用年紀來衡量的話,我的經驗就這麼多,這輩子也不能讓它多一點,也不會少一點。但是,我的年紀並不等於我所擁有的生活經驗。許多人用我的年齡來攻訐我,來打消對我的羨慕,以此為借口不付我錢,試圖打斷我說話,或給我們之間的差異找理由。

 

這種對年齡的評論以往會使我泄氣,我就認輸了。我還知道打肉毒桿菌能不能讓我長几根灰頭髮,添幾條皺紋。那我工作起來一定更有說服力!

 

但我就是我。我多大就多大。如果你不喜歡,那是你的問題。

 

別讓人說你太老,或者太年輕……

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about Noch Noch

Enoch Li, (pen name: Noch Noch) was born and raised in Hong Kong and Australia. She has also studied / worked / lived in the US, France, UK, Japan, The Netherlands, China, and has travelled to more than 40 countries. She loves travelling and her curiosity in foreign cultures and languages has led her to enjoy her life as an international executive in the banking & finance industry. However, she was forced to take time off work in 2010 due to her illnesses and after spending time in recovery, cooking, practising Chinese calligraphy, reading and writing – in short, learning to take care of herself and letting out the residual work stress, she has transitioned into a Social Entrepreneur and founded BEARAPY to help corporates make workplaces mentally healthy, and support executives to become more resilient.