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為什麼我們會感到有壓力,感到緊張,感到不知所措?各種期望。我們害怕達不到那些期望。

不管是工作,家庭,生活或是個人的目標和夢想,對這一切我們都抱有期望。

達不到期望,我們便會失望。我們覺得自己讓別人失望——考試沒得滿分會讓我的父母和老師失望。但我真的需要那些分數嗎?

人們會對我們有所期望,我們靠他們用期望為我們編織的構想生活。那這又是為什麼呢?——我們在質疑這些期望是否合理之前就把它們背在肩上去解決全世界的問題了。

其他時候,並沒有人對我們有什麼期待,但我們卻誤讀了這一點。

我以為我必須掙足夠多的錢來獲得成功。我以為我必須烘烤一個完美的蛋糕否則就不會有人願意吃。我以為要讓別人喜歡我,要交到朋友就必須搞笑。

但即便我的蛋糕被弄碎了,朋友們也一樣高興地品嘗,叫著稱讚蛋糕的美味。即便我心中充滿悲傷朋友們也都伴在我的身旁。雖然我沒有錢但我依然在生活著。

我們自己對自己的期望。我們認為別人對我們的期望。

這些都是我們強加給自己的壓力。

壓力可以是好東西,競爭可以提高生產力,期望可以種下動力。

但只給自己我們需要的那部分就好。

翻譯:楊征

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about Noch Noch

Enoch Li, (pen name: Noch Noch) was born and raised in Hong Kong and Australia. She has also studied / worked / lived in the US, France, UK, Japan, The Netherlands, China, and has travelled to more than 40 countries. She loves travelling and her curiosity in foreign cultures and languages has led her to enjoy her life as an international executive in the banking & finance industry. However, she was forced to take time off work in 2010 due to her illnesses and after spending time in recovery, cooking, practising Chinese calligraphy, reading and writing – in short, learning to take care of herself and letting out the residual work stress, she has transitioned into a Social Entrepreneur and founded BEARAPY to help corporates make workplaces mentally healthy, and support executives to become more resilient.