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爲什麽抑鬱症在一定程度上是如此地使人畏縮呢?爲什麽對於一些人來說,把自己從這種心理狀態中拯救出來是如此困難呢?

控制–我們對環境,處境和自我都失去了控制。

也許在現實中,我們並沒有真的失去控制。但是我們感覺如此,所以我們就心中認定了如此。

這樣一來,我們迷失了自己。我們感到疑惑。我們感到害怕。我們陷入了自我恐懼的漩渦中。

尤其對於那些像我一樣的控制狂來說,那種失落的感覺甚至會更加使人低落,讓人感到受到威脅。試想一下被蒙住雙眼,在下水道裏行走,不知不覺地突然掉進某個大大的井裏,沒有任何東西可以讓你抓著。並不是我經曆過這種事,而是這是我能想到描述失控時那種憂慮的最好方式。

爲了讓自己重新找回控制,我列了幾張清單,有幾張是我想做的事,一張是我喜歡做的事,一張是我的強項和弱點,一張是我的愛好,一張是我獲得的成就,一張是我曾到過的地方,還有一張是我想去的地方。然後我把清單上的項目進行了壓縮,看看哪些是我可以短期內實現的,哪一些是還需要更多計劃的。我對自己已經取得的成就感到欣慰。看著自己還想在哪些方面有所提高,我需要學習冷靜和耐心嗎?是什麽造成了我的壓力?

我寫著,寫著。

漸漸發現我可以對環境和自己做一些小的改變。慢慢地,我便能夠決定自己是否還需要繼續接受藥物治療。一點點地,我覺得康複也不是什麽費勁的任務了。

控制–控制你的思想和理智,控制你的行爲。

你可以做得到。你也會好起來的。

 

翻譯:賈冬玲

about Noch Noch

Enoch Li, (pen name: Noch Noch) was born and raised in Hong Kong and Australia. She has also studied / worked / lived in the US, France, UK, Japan, The Netherlands, China, and has travelled to more than 40 countries. She loves travelling and her curiosity in foreign cultures and languages has led her to enjoy her life as an international executive in the banking & finance industry. However, she was forced to take time off work in 2010 due to her illnesses and after spending time in recovery, cooking, practising Chinese calligraphy, reading and writing – in short, learning to take care of herself and letting out the residual work stress, she has transitioned into a Social Entrepreneur and founded BEARAPY to help corporates make workplaces mentally healthy, and support executives to become more resilient.