If you want to learn to relinquish control, take care of a baby.
My baby girl was born a month ago. Aside from the hormonal ups and downs, the roller coaster of emotions, and interrupted sleep, having a baby is forcing me to let someone else direct my decisions and behaviours.
There is no control over a baby. She will cry when she needs to be fed, she will feed when she is hungry, she will stay awake when her mood desires, and she will sleep when she is sleepy even if you keep poking her face to make her wake up.
Plans go out the door. Schedules get changed again and again. Gratefully, I managed to keep some appointments as my husband is supportive and we have a system in place for extra help. Plus, we try to keep some sort of “life” despite adjusting to this transitional phase, as a healthy, happy mother – and marriage – is just as important to the well being of this little bugger. Therefore, if a manicure would keep me sane, I would leave the baby in the care of someone else and keep my manicure appointment. A little break for a dinner out or a walk with the dog together with my husband refreshes the exhausted soul.
For a control freak like myself, revolving around others and not knowing what the next step is brings utmost anxiety. How to cope? Not sure.
But without a doubt, this baby will force on to me, by far the most drastic changes in behaviour. Timmie taught me the concept of chilling out – this baby girl will enforce the implementation…
Some things are out of our control. Let it flow. It is all an experience.