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If I dropped dead right now…

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If I dropped dead right now, I would have no regrets.

There are things I have not accomplished (publish a book), there are places I still would like to visit (Canada to see polar bear cubs, Finland to visit Santa Claus, Iceland to see the Northern lights…), and there are experiences I would like to attempt (sky diving). However, it would not matter if I did not do those things anymore.

It is not because I do not want to, it is because I have tried my best.

Whatever is, is.

In my present state of mind and life, everyday I do what pleases me.
When I have energy, I can walk my dog, practice calligraphy, read a book, and write. When I am ill or my mood falls into an abyss, I can hide in my Bear Room and feel safe.

All are moments in the present. There is no sense of being held up by the past, nor is there a dread for the future.

I have helped all I could; I have tried all I could.

I cannot control whether people would reply to my emails – but I can control my reactions. What good would it do to become frantic and frustrated, catastrophizing that because my agent hates my book idea or me and therefore he does not reply? If I let it go and stop minding, then maybe I will see some progress.

When there is no attachment to things, experiences, people, there will be no suffering, for we will not feel a sense of loss or sadness by not attaining these things, experiences, and people.

We bring ourselves pain. We bring ourselves anger.

Likewise, we can free ourselves, free our minds, free our desires.

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Understanding that each moment in life is significant and yet, just a moment; understanding that what is, is; understanding that we can change only ourselves, is the key to all perceived challenges in our ephemeral life.

Enjoy the sunshine. Enjoy the rain. Enjoy the smog.

2014 will be magical.

Happy New Year, my friends. Thank you for staying with me for another year…

Be me. Be you.

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20 Responses

  1. ww says:
    3 January, 2014 at 1:21 pm

    You know what? I think exactly the same this morning!
    Far apart, close in heart!
    Happy New Year dear, thank you for staying with me for another year…
    Support & love you as always!

  2. Nigel Chua says:
    3 January, 2014 at 2:09 pm

    Nochie, 2014 will be your best year ever! Of course, Tim too! =D

  3. Patrice says:
    3 January, 2014 at 10:06 pm

    Dear Nochie,

    What to say about what you wrote above other than a profound and sincere THANK YOU…!

    …”understanding that what is, is”

    Thank you for being and allowing us into your life the way you do…

    May 2014 be one of deep tranquil serenity for you Nochie…

    Be you…

  4. Lily Lai says:
    6 January, 2014 at 9:01 am

    Nochie,
    Happy New Year to you! Trust that it will be a better year for you and me! All the best wishes to you!

  5. Pattie cake says:
    16 January, 2014 at 5:24 am

    What a lovely what to embark on the new year…by discovering you! Thank you for your words.

    • nochnoch says:
      16 January, 2014 at 1:07 pm

      Hi Pattie cake

      Thanks for coming by my blog and leaving a message. Hope you embark on this new year on a good note too! all the best

      Noch Noch

  6. black dog says:
    19 January, 2014 at 2:19 pm

    我很希望就此到下，很累了，家人看不见你所付出的努力，他们也只能认为你不去努力赚钱，在家里就是一个没用的人，我也很懒惰要去说什么了，都没人能理解，就像我父亲，突然心脏休克倒下，在也没有什么比这个更加痛快了，因为一切就结束了。我讨厌自己，讨厌这个世界。

    • nochnoch says:
      13 February, 2014 at 9:29 pm

      黑狗， 最近如何？家人不明白你，也沒辦法，你已盡力了。盡力了， 已是你可以做到的最好了，那就不要對自已太苛刻。Don’t hate yourself, you are precious in your own way
      Noch Noch

  7. Black dog says:
    17 February, 2014 at 2:03 pm

    谢谢你，我会努力的，你也要加油！:)

  8. Patrice says:
    25 February, 2014 at 8:24 pm

    Oh, I will stay tuned for sure… 🙂

    Thinks are going well for me…I do focus my time on photography right now and I manage to get 1-2 contract/week…So what more to ask for…getting revenue from one of my passion…I ignore if there will be any long lasting development with this passion but I just enjoy the present moment for now…Something which has been with me for over 20 years and that I now let blossoming…
    ”And the day came, when the risk it took to remain tight in a bud, became greater than the risk it took to blossom”

    A great change from the corporate world…

    Very much looking forward to read you more Nochie…

    Thanks for being… 🙂

    Take good care…

    Patrice

    • nochnoch says:
      11 March, 2014 at 11:03 am

      That’s GREAT! happy to hear the photo passion taking off 🙂
      I told Tim about the quote you gave me in the comment, and he said, “YEH! for sure, when the ‘night job’ gets in the way of the ‘day job’, time to quit :)”

      New post up… perhaps not exactly the kind of inspiration you expected for me, but it made me happy and I had a good evening listening to Beethoven and the rest 🙂

      NN

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about Noch Noch

Enoch Li, (pen name: Noch Noch) was born and raised in Hong Kong and Australia. She has also studied / worked / lived in the US, France, UK, Japan, The Netherlands, China, and has travelled to more than 40 countries. She loves travelling and her curiosity in foreign cultures and languages has led her to enjoy her life as an international executive in the banking & finance industry. However, she was forced to take time off work in 2010 due to her illnesses and after spending time in recovery, cooking, practising Chinese calligraphy, reading and writing – in short, learning to take care of herself and letting out the residual work stress, she has transitioned into a Social Entrepreneur and founded BEARAPY to help corporates make workplaces mentally healthy, and support executives to become more resilient.

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