Why do we feel pressured, stressed out, overwhelmed? Expectations – and the fear of falling short from those expectations.
Whether it’s work, home, life, our personal goals and dreams, the answer has to do with the simple phenomenon of expectations. When we fall short of these expectations, we feel disappointed. We feel we have failed others – not getting full marks on the examinations disappointed my parents and teachers. But did I really need full marks?
People expect from us, and we live by their frameworks. And why? We do not question whether these expectations are justified, and take it upon our shoulders to solve the world’s problems.
Other times, no one expects anything from us, and yet we misconceive so.
But my friends ate the cake even though it was crumbling into pieces, exclaiming how delicious it was. Friends were around even when I was melancholy. I have no money and yet I live.
Expectations we place on ourselves. Expectations we think others have of us. Unnecessary stress we create for ourselves.
Pressure could be good, competition could be productive, and expectations could sow motivation — but place only what we expectations are justified on ourselves.