I was stumbling through the world wide web one evening, and came across Benny’s article on reviewing the year (Benny is the owner of a very uplifting and inspirational website called Get Busy Living). It reminded me of the performance reviews I used to do att work: listing out our achievements, accomplished targets, improved aspects… in hope to get a higher year end rating so as to get a bigger bonus in April.
I have not really done a review for my personal life, however, so decided to give it a go. I’ve always been the kind of person who’s harsh on myself, perfectionist to say the least, and so hardly give myself any credit for my own accomplishments. I tend to focus on what I have not done, making myself feel very bad for “wasting” time watching TV or lounging.
Sometimes though, we need to give ourselves a pat on the back for the littlest thing to keep encouraging ourselves.
So this time round, I decided to concentrate on what I have done for once.
I had a good think about the questions on the review, and in the spirit of needing to congratulate myself, I spent more time on pondering what I had accomplished over what I have to quit doing. Accordingly, to fit this scheme of thinking, the following are my answers on only part of the review proposed.
Three personal developments I have made in the past year are:
- Exercising again
- Not jump to the worst conclusions all the time
- Aware of when my mood starts to sink and try to do something about it
Smartest decision I made last year:
Biggest risk I took last year:
Making myself stay alive when all I wanted to do was escape from life. Perhaps this is not so much a risk in the conventional sense. Yet in the mindset at that moment when I was sat on the window sill, ready to jump out, and dying seemed like the only sensible way out, it sure felt like it was the biggest risk possible to take to stay alive another second.
One sentence that sums up this past year:
Transition into serenity by making peace with myself, my thoughts, and my emotions.
10 greatest things that happened in the past year:
- Stayed alive
- Got engaged
- Got a puppy
- Exponential growth in the number of bears for my collection
- Started tai chi and Chinese calligraphy lessons, thereby finding my own method of meditation
- Rediscovered my passion for writing
- Got my blog redesigned – and it’s AWESOME!!!!
- Got off anti-depressants
- Started eating breakfast
- Made new friends
I am most proud of these three accomplishments from last year:
- Again, that I stayed alive, which I suppose – after all, this is crucial to everything else happening
- Moving my @ss out of bed and maintaining some sort of social contact with the world
- Letting go of my obsession for title and the corporate ladder
The above is just part of the annual review questions. However, the questions I have omitted here are not ignored; they will be merged with another article I’ve half done writing. Nevertheless, for the benefit of everybody reading this and hoping to write their own version of an annual review, the other questions are:
- If I could do things again last year, I would do these three things differently:
- Three things I need to do more of in the next year are
- Three things I need to do less of in the next year are:
- One year from right now, I want my ideal day to look like this:
- Three great lessons I’ve learned from last year are:
- Three things I need to stop completely doing in the next year are:
- Three reasons I didn’t achieve my goals from this past year are:
- Three goals I want to achieve this next year are:
- Three reasons why I want to achieve these goals are:
I also suggest that you have a look at Benny’s and also Chris’ articles about this subject. Benny generously provides a free worksheet to download as guidance for your review, and Chris encourages you to look at the different aspects of your 2011 with a few different articles.
That’s all folks this time – no particularly deep analysis or message, just a little pat on the back for being me.
Till next time.
Be me. Be natural.